Thursday, April 24, 2014

Thoughtful Thursday: Spending quality time with each child

One of the things (of so many!) I had to really learn to manage was finding that quality time with each of my kids. We got to give Jayden complete attention for 4 years and 4 months before the twins were born. We found our routine with our little family of 3 and it just worked. Jayden and I found one thing we both liked to do: bake cookies together. It was our mommy and son thing. B wanted nothing to do with it, he just wanted to eat the cookies after we were done. LOL I still remember, and getting teary-eyed now, the first time we baked cookies together after my long hospital stay. He was so excited! I think little things like that really make a child feel happy, and most importantly, loved.


My mom recently told me of a program she heard on the news and the importance of spending quality time with each child individually. They just said 15 minutes a day. Which got me thinking, that is all our children can get from each of us? And I know it's hard for working moms and stay at home moms alike. There is always so much to be done around the house, but I realize the importance of quality time with each child, individually.

I just wanted to share some things I do with each of my kids to give the individual and quality time.
Preschooler (My oldest just turned 5):
* We bake cookies together. He helps put all the ingredients in and loves to lick the bowl afterwards : )
* Making crafts together, according to a Holiday. It seems that when you have kids, you now celebrate every Holiday!
* Take a walk to the park together
* Reading a book/saying your prayers before bedtime
* Board games (Our family favorite is Monopoly Jr.)
* Puzzles, especially the floor ones that take a long time to put together

Infant (9 month old twins)
* B and I each have one assigned baby for night duty (that counts as quality time, right? Nothing like snuggling at 3am when they will not go back to sleep. LOL)
* We always do floor time after dinner, before bath time. We take turns with each baby.
* Bath time. I bathe separately since there is no way I could bathe both at the same time. But it gives me time to talk to each individually.
* Having a special song for each baby. Having a special nickname for each baby.
* Reading a book geared to each child. Ava loves baby books. Aiden loves animals.
* Remember to treat twins as individuals. They have their own personalities, things they like and things they do not like.

Please share what else you mommies are doing. I'm always looking for new things to try with the kiddos.

And I can't leave you without a few pictures of my sweet family.



                    Ava and Aiden's outfits: Marshalls // Ava's Bow: Little London Lou c/o


                         Daddy and his boys. A few weeks ago at Texans theme birthday party.

 
I didn't want to change the babies after church : )




Please share what else you mommies are doing. I'm always looking for new things to try with the kiddos.

Linking up with Twin Talk Blog.

4 comments:

  1. What a sweet post and a great reminder. I need to do a better job at quality time. Sometimes taking one to the store or Starbucks is a treat but it is rare. Thank you for your nice comment that was sweet.

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    1. I do need to do better to, so believe me, this post was my reminder too :)

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  2. Beautiful babies! And what a great post! Thanks so much for linking up! :)

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